Step 9: We are seeking through prayer and meditation to make a conscious effort to consider others better than ourselves.
If we make the things that we excel in, even for one moment, the defining moments of our lives, we may get a false sense of our importance. And if we use this expertise as proof of our worth, we are only getting part of the story. Pharisees cast blame; recovering Pharisees take blame. Jesus would have taken it. That is what His cross was all about. Prov 16:2; 1 Cor 15:9; 4:4-5; Luke 18:9-14; Matt 23:23-39
Instead of putting people down, we put them up, and we do this by taking a secondary, supportive role to those around us. This is not a false groveling humility; it is a way of considering others that elevates them. It’s all about learning to appreciate those around us and giving validity to their opinions and points of view. There’s one sure way to consider other people as better than yourself and that is to truly believe that they are. Because you see yourself as the “least of the least,” the other guy is always better than you. Another way to do this is to see other people not as what they are but as what they could be in Christ. When we see others as they could be in Christ, we are creating an environment for it to be so. Phil 2:3-4; 4:8; 1 Cor 1:27; 12:18-27; 13:4-7;
If a Pharisee wants to recover, a good place to begin would be to look up to those he or she formerly would have judged. Jonah 3-4; Matt 18:4-7, 23-35